One of my mentors recently summed up the network marketing profession this way: “We get paid to talk to people.”
1. Find people to talk to.
2. Talk to them.
Keep in mind, of course, that simple does not necessarily mean easy. Talking to people is easier for some people than others. But the great thing is anybody can do it, and everybody can learn to do it better.
So where do you find people to talk to? You have two choices: people you know and people you don’t know.
Many new network marketing professionals eagerly talk to everyone they know. Most quickly discover, however, that a good number of their friends and family don’t want to hear about their “business opportunity.”
Many find that people they know even actively discourage involvement. They have either had a bad experience or just have a negative view of anything new.
This has led me to generally advise people who are new to MLM to avoid talking to people they know. I have adjusted that belief for a couple of reasons.
First, network marketers should be proud of what they do. They are building businesses that can change their lives.
The MLM business model is the best opportunity for nearly everyone in the working world to get ahead in life. We should proudly offer it to anyone who wants to move forward.
Second, people generally join people they know, like and trust. It’s easier to convince someone who already knows, likes and trusts you to look at your business than it is to get someone who will look at your business to know, like and trust you.
Third, you want to be in business with people you like. You already like your friends (or at least you should), so why not ask them to become your business partners.
Of course, you also should talk to other people. Any conversation about your business will, at the very least, help you become better at talking to people about your opportunity.
So, what do you say to people once you find them? Simple, tell them a story. Don’t vomit statistics and facts about your product or service on them. Just tell them about a great experience that you or someone you know has had.
Here’s a example of what I say to people.
“My brother weighed more than 335 pounds. He was miserably overweight to the point that he couldn’t even play with his four-year-old son. He found a system that helped him lose more than 20 pounds in less than a month and he’s still losing. He told me he feels better than he’s felt in years.
“Now he wants to help other people have that same feeling. Do you know anyone who wants to lose some fat or have more energy?”
Then, I listen to their response and go from there. Nearly everyone knows someone in that situation. Many say, “Me.”
Every conversation doesn’t go perfectly, but that’s OK. Every time I talk to someone, I’ve done my job.
So that’s my simple, two-step recruiting system. Find people. Talk to them.
One of my mentors in network marketing, Tom “Big Al” Shreiter, taught me that the network marketing professional’s job is to help people make a decision.
Once you understand that it’s OK if the decision is no, that takes a lot of the pressure off during your presentation. After all, network marketing isn’t for everyone. If so, everyone would be doing it, right?
My friend, John Milton Fogg, shared a video on Facebook that shows a great way to help folk make a decision. The video Eric Worre is a seven-minute seminar on “Closing in MLM.” I’m not crazy about the term “closing” because it makes me think of high pressure closing tactics, but Eric’s strategy is low-key.
One of the things I like about this approach is its emphasis on asking questions. The first question, which asks the person to rate their interest on a scale of 1 to 10, is a straightforward way to find out where the conversation stands.
The next three questions simply identify how much money the person wants or needs to make each month, how much time the person is willing to commit each week, and how many months he or she would be willing to spend to make it happen.
The final question asks the person if he or she is ready to go forward if you can show them how to make that happen.
These questions might not be right for you. Perhaps you’d prefer to find out why the person wants or needs money. Then you could connect your business opportunity to their dreams.
But whatever questions you ask, the important thing is to ask questions. When you ask relevant questions, you’ll find out about the person to whom you are talking.
And don’t just ask questions because it will help you “close” people. That is not a strategy for long-term success.
After you ask a question, listen intently to the answer. Ask another question based on that answer. Learn about the person.
The process is simple. Find out what the person wants, and show them how you can help them get it.
It might turn out that you can’t help them get what they want. If so, let them know. They might be looking for something other than what you are offering. If so, you’ve helped them make a decision. That’s your job.
The other day I was thinking about a time in my life that wasn’t very pleasant. I went through some struggles and faced a few challenges.
I began to wonder about some of the decisions that I had made back then. I started thinking about whether my life would be better now if I had done some things differently back then.
After a while it occurred to me how useless that kind of thinking is. The brutal truth is that I can’t go back and undo the decisions I made back then. I am where I am and things are like they are.
It reminded me of a classic scene from one of my favorite movies, Apollo 13.
The astronauts are frustrated and disappointed that they aren’t going to get to land on the moon because of mechanical issues. Tom Hanks’ character, James Lovell says to the other two, “Gentlemen, what are your intentions?” He reminds them that they have work to do in order to make it back home.
We all face similar, although much less dramatic, situations in our lives. We can get aggravated about how things are, or we can think about how we can deal with it.
Worrying or complaining about how things might have been better if you’d only done this or done that will not change the ways things are. You can only deal with it now.
Here’s another way to look at it. Think about yourself a year or two years from now. Consider the possibility that you will be looking back at the decisions you make now.
Make choices that will take you to where you want to be in the future. If you continue to do the same things, you will almost certainly get the same results.
Decide now to take action. Do what needs to be done, and you will be pleased with what you accomplished.
A post on Benjamin Fitts’ blog called “12 Things We Should Be Able To Say” is worth reading for anyone who wants to get ahead in life, but is particularly applicable to network marketers.
Fitts said he copied the information from Jay McHugh’s newsletter, but I did not see it on McHugh’s site. I heard about Fitts’ post through John Milton Fogg’s Facebook page.
Fogg is author of the networking classic, “The Greatest Networker in the World,” which every networker should read.
I strongly recommend reading the entire post on Fitts’ site, but here are a few of the points that I felt were especially relevant for networkers.
“I am making a difference.
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
Nearly all network marketing companies share the goal of helping people.
The products are, in many cases, life-changing. Some are nutritional. Others are service-oriented.
And, of course, the business opportunities often transform lifestyles.
So network marketing companies make a difference in people’s lives. Even those who are not extremely successful financially often become healthier people with a better outlook on life.
“I am growing into the best version of me.
“Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.” Live by this statement. There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.”
Most networking companies offer some sort of self-help or motivational tools for their distributors. Good sponsors help their downlines to grow as people.
Nearly every successful networker will tell you that personal development played a strong role in helping them reach their goals.
“I am good to those I care about.
“In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Many times it’s our actions, not just our words that really speak what our heart feels for another.”
This, in my opinion, is one of the keys to network marketing. You have to care about the people you sponsor into the business. That doesn’t mean you do their work for them, but it means you care-fully help them realize their dreams.
“I take full accountability for my life.
“Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.”
One of the most important steps to becoming your best self is realizing that you are in control of your life. Blaming other people or your circumstances will never get you where you want to be.
An added bonus to this attitude is the increased likelihood of taking action. Once you know you’re the one in charge, you’ll be more likely to do what you need to do.
Network marketing has financial rewards beyond most people’s wildest dreams, but the personal benefits can be even more rewarding.
I recently came across a video of a speech about motivation that has important implications for network marketers.
Here’s the video, which has more than 9.5 million views on YouTube. I will discuss his main points and their implications for network marketing below, but it’s worth 10 minutes to give the video a look.
Pink cites research that calls into question the belief that performance increases if people are offered money for doing better. The theory behind the belief is that if you dangle a carrot of money in front of someone, they will strive to get it.
The studies showed that the reward incentive worked for simple mechanical skills, but the opposite occurred for complex cognitive skills. Higher incentives actually led to poorer performance for complex tasks that required creative thinking.
The best use of money as a motivator is to pay people enough to take the issue off the table, Pink said. In other words, people will be motivated by the thought of having enough money so they don’t have to worry about money anymore.
Think about the implications for network marketers, specifically how you present your business opportunity. All the Powerpoint slides or bullet points about making loads of cash might very well be useless.
Instead, perhaps our business presentations should show how network marketing can end all worries about money. Maybe people will be motivated more by having enough to pay their bills than by having enough to buy a luxury car.
Pink doesn’t stop there. He goes on to talk about the three factors that lead to better performance once people have enough money: autonomy, mastery and purpose. All three are perfect incentives for network marketing
Autonomy is the desire to be self-directed. Pink mentions an Australian company that allows its employees to work on whatever they want one day every three months. That one day of autonomy has led to a number of successful software fixes and ideas.
Network marketing allows people to have tremendous autonomy in their business and ultimately in their lives. If you’re a self-directed person, you have a great opportunity to succeed in this business.
Mastery is the urge to get better at something, Pink said. One example is people playing instruments on the weekend because it’s fun and they want to get better at it. Another is people who do sophisticated work on a volunteer basis because they want to be challenged.
Imagine the opportunities for mastery that successful network marketers enjoy. I once met a network marketer who told me that one of the greatest benefits of his success was that it gave him time to learn to play the piano, which is something he had wanted to do since he was a kid.
Purpose is making a contribution to the world. Profit, Pink said, should be connected to purpose.
The best recruiters in network marketing lead their prospects to find their purpose and see how the business can help them achieve that purpose. Making the world a better place is a much worthier goal than making a million dollars.
Organizations that flourish are animated by their purpose, Pink said. The takeaway, he said, is to treat people like people.
That, I believe, is excellent advice for networkers. Don’t turn your business into a numbers game. Help people see how network marketing can end their money worries, become self-directed, master their goals and find their purpose. Do this, and you shall have success.
One of the songs was especially meaningful to me. It is called “Waitress,” by the band BOY.
A phrase in the lyrics, “She’s counting the days,” initially made me think of my daughter who was working a summer job out of state at the time and was looking forward to coming back home.
As I listened to the song even closer, it reminded me of how so many people feel these days. They are counting the days, too. Have a listen to the song in the video below.
These lyrics really made me think:
The waitress is waiting
for a thing to explode
for a light to go on
for some sign to show
her time is yet to come.
She’s the counting the days
until real life arrives
Imagine how many people feel exactly like that. They know somewhere deep in their being that there has to be more to life. They are stuck in a dead-end job. They know there’s a way out, but they can’t find it.
Think about all those people you come in contact with every day who have a crappy attitude about life. Perhaps it’s because they have a crappy life and have no idea how to escape from it.
These words from the song also caused me to think.
Every minute feels
just like the one before
no surprise no twists
she wants so much more
I once heard a network marketing trainer say that the people we are looking for are looking for us. I think there are more of those people than ever before.
For many people, every minute feels the same. They want more, but don’t know how to get it. Our job is to show them.
We can only hope that those people realize that real life can actually arrive. If we present our opportunity with no pressure, it can be the thing that explodes for them. It can be the light that comes on at just the right time, the sign that shows their time, their best time, has come.
If you think about those people when you are presenting your network marketing opportunity, your whole attitude will change.
This is not just about business. It’s more than just making money. It’s about life.
It’s not just about making a living. It’s about living.
Most people, sooner or later, start asking what I like to call “ultimate questions.” They tend to ask them in a number of ways, but nearly all of them focus on the quest for a better life.
Unfortunately, many people don’t give those questions much attention. They’ve got too many messages in their outbox to consider issues with no deadline, no matter how important they seem.
I’m not talking about just better living — making a few extra bucks or driving a nicer car. I’m talking about the quality of your life. Something that gets your juice flowing. Something worth living for.
I had a professor once, who would often say about various philosophers, “I’m not sure if I agree with his answers, but I sure like the questions.” In a sense, the questions are more important than the answers. Or perhaps the search for the answers is more important than the answers themselves.
You learn how to make life better but starting with a close look at yourself.
Many people just do what they’ve always done. Somewhere along the way, their dreams got pushed aside so many times that they don’t even notice they’re gone.
Good news: those hopes, dreams and aspirations can be called back. The first step is to actually recall them. Remember them. Bring them back to mind. Give them new life.
You have that power. Consider what it would take to make those dreams a reality. If that task seems too daunting, start with just a portion of a dream.
What one thing could you do that would help you learn how to make life better? What’s a small accomplishment that would get positive momentum building in your favor?
What would you have to do? How could you do it?
Take at least a few moments every day to consider these questions. You’ll notice a difference almost immediately.
Once you start focusing on how to make life better, the means of making life better will start to reveal themselves. Life will be better simply because you’re looking for ways to make life better.
The other day, I learned a valuable lesson about the need to have confidence in music and in life.
The band I play in had just went through a tough rehearsal. We were supposed to play the next day, and to say we were struggling would be kind. We’d tried to learn a few new songs, and all but one were bad. Real bad.
We finally replaced a few of the harder songs with easier tunes, but our music was still pretty rough. When we started playing, I thought about some advice a piano teacher gave me years ago. I was nervous just before a recital and she said, “Steve, if you mess up, just keep going and no one will notice.”
I’m not sure she was being completely truthful, but her suggestion helped calm me down and helped me play better, I’m sure. Since then I’ve thought of her words many times.
So when we started playing the other day, I decided to play with confidence. I knew that if I played tentatively I would almost certainly mess up.
I don’t know if the other band members picked up on it, but I do know that we played better than we had at any time during practice.
I thought later how the music lesson also applies to life. Confidence is often the difference between success and failure. It’s like someone once said, “If you think you’re going to fail, or if you think you’re going to succeed, you’re right.”
So next time you get nervous about something, get in harmony with your optimistic side. Have confidence in music and in life. Even if you make a mistake, keep going. No one will notice.
I’m constantly amazed at the places that potential learning opportunities pop-up. I often drive down a country road near a Civil War battlefield. I usually find the rural scenery relatively relaxing.
One day, I happened to notice something that I had somehow missed on all my previous trips by the fields along the road. Right in the middle of one of the fields stood a tree. It was only about 25 or 30 feet tall, but I was nevertheless taken somewhat aback that a tree had somehow managed to grow right in the middle of the field.
When I took a closer look, I saw the secret to the tree’s survival. It had sprouted in the edge of a ditch, out of reach from plows, tractors and other equipment that would have ended it’s life if it was anywhere else.
It reminded me that there are times in life when we have to find a spot away from harmful distractions that keep us from growing and accomplishing our goals. If we’re where we supposed to be, we should develop an attitude of persistence while avoiding the people and things that would hold us back.
While the tree is not very big, I can tell that it has been around for at least 10 years of so. It grew nearly sideways early in it’s life but later headed skyward as it was meant to do.
Sometimes, we have to take a different route than originally planned, but if we keep trying, we’ll find a way to where we need to be. In time, our patience will be rewarded.
I’m not sure what kind of tree it is, but I know that it has made it through thunderstorms, drought and snow showers. It wouldn’t stand out in a forest, but it certainly stands out in the middle of the field.
If we find our mission in life, we’ll have the strength to carry it out. Power comes to those who know where they’re going.
Next time you feel a little pressure, remember that persistence, patience and power can help you grow despite your circumstances.
I just finished watching the USA women move into the semi-finals of the World Cup soccer tournament. In case you missed it, the United States team was behind until Abby Wambach scored a goal just before the game ended.
Earlier, it seemed like everything was going against the team, including several questionable calls. But the U.S. players ended up winning on penalty kicks when goalie Hope Solo made a great save and Ali Krieger made the winning kick.
I took away a few lessons from the game. I learned similar lessons from Landon Donavan last year.
The U.S. players kept playing even when it seemed like they were surely going to lose. Abby Wambach’s header into the goal came in time that was added to the end of the game because injuries earlier.
The second lesson is that sometimes you need to keep trying even if you fail the first few times.
U.S. player Megan Rapinoe had made a number of passes that had not found their mark, but her pass to Wambach was a thing of beauty. Rapinoe kicked it to the absolutely best spot for Wambach to score.
The third lesson was something I almost missed, have confidence.
I watched the replay about 10 times. On about the third, I noticed that Wambach raised her hand just before Rapinoe kicked the ball toward her.
Wambach wanted the ball to come to her, even though several players from Brazil were around. She wanted it, she got it and she tied the game because of it.
The next time you face an obstacle in your business or in life, have confidence, keep trying and never give up.