Many folks have a tough time finding success because they don’t give themselves the necessary time to succeed.
I love to run.
This is a rather recent feeling. In my younger days, I thought people who ran were crazy. Why would anyone just go running?
Then a few years ago, I promised my daughter that I would run in a 5K race with her. I’m not sure what made me make the commitment.
It was just after she had completed a Thanksgiving Day race near our house. For some reason, I told her after she finished that I would run the race with her the next year.
Maybe I thought she’d forget.
Maybe I thought I’d forget.
Maybe I thought everyone would forget.
So in August, I decided I’d better start training. It began with a mile walk on a treadmill and progressed until I could actually run the 3.1 miles needed for a 5K race.
I set a goal of 40 minutes, which I easily beat several weeks before the race. I set a new goal of 35 minutes and came close to meeting in on race day.
Since then, I’ve run hundreds of miles. My daughter and I now plan to run a half marathon later this year.
As my running has progressed, I’ve wanted to learn more about how to be a more efficient and effective runner. I’m still not breaking any land speed records, but I have broken the 28 minute mark in a 5K and have set a new, ultimate goal of 25 minutes.
One thing I have learned is the value of an upright stance while running. Previously, I had run in a hunched over fashion, looking at the ground just in front of me.
I found that by straightening out my upper torso, I could breath easier, which got more air in my lungs and let me run farther.
But I also discovered an added, unexpected benefit.
My new form caused me to automatically focus farther ahead. I immediately noticed that the hills didn’t look as intimidating.
I learned that all the hills look higher when you’re looking down. Looking up makes them much less intimidating.
I believe that is also true in life. When you look on the bright side and have a good attitude, you’ll be much better prepared for challenges.
It doesn’t mean that life is going to be easy all the time, but it will help you get through the rough stretches.
A few years ago I was talking with someone close to me. He was lamenting the fact that he had spent what he saw as his “best five years” working for a guy who used him up and spit him out.
Without thinking I said, “Those weren’t your best five years. Your best five years are your next five years.” I’ve tried to remember that insightful moment since then.
Way too often we waste time thinking about what might have been. We wish we had done something different. Or we wish someone else had done something different.
The way it is is the way it is. We can’t change what happened or how we got here.
We can change how we approach the current situation, and that would make things better in the future. It will certainly make things better now.
A post on Benjamin Fitts’ blog called “12 Things We Should Be Able To Say” is worth reading for anyone who wants to get ahead in life, but is particularly applicable to network marketers.
Fitts said he copied the information from Jay McHugh’s newsletter, but I did not see it on McHugh’s site. I heard about Fitts’ post through John Milton Fogg’s Facebook page.
Fogg is author of the networking classic, “The Greatest Networker in the World,” which every networker should read.
I strongly recommend reading the entire post on Fitts’ site, but here are a few of the points that I felt were especially relevant for networkers.
“I am making a difference.
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
Nearly all network marketing companies share the goal of helping people.
The products are, in many cases, life-changing. Some are nutritional. Others are service-oriented.
And, of course, the business opportunities often transform lifestyles.
So network marketing companies make a difference in people’s lives. Even those who are not extremely successful financially often become healthier people with a better outlook on life.
“I am growing into the best version of me.
“Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.” Live by this statement. There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.”
Most networking companies offer some sort of self-help or motivational tools for their distributors. Good sponsors help their downlines to grow as people.
Nearly every successful networker will tell you that personal development played a strong role in helping them reach their goals.
“I am good to those I care about.
“In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Many times it’s our actions, not just our words that really speak what our heart feels for another.”
This, in my opinion, is one of the keys to network marketing. You have to care about the people you sponsor into the business. That doesn’t mean you do their work for them, but it means you care-fully help them realize their dreams.
“I take full accountability for my life.
“Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.”
One of the most important steps to becoming your best self is realizing that you are in control of your life. Blaming other people or your circumstances will never get you where you want to be.
An added bonus to this attitude is the increased likelihood of taking action. Once you know you’re the one in charge, you’ll be more likely to do what you need to do.
Network marketing has financial rewards beyond most people’s wildest dreams, but the personal benefits can be even more rewarding.
I’m constantly amazed at the places that potential learning opportunities pop-up. I often drive down a country road near a Civil War battlefield. I usually find the rural scenery relatively relaxing.
One day, I happened to notice something that I had somehow missed on all my previous trips by the fields along the road. Right in the middle of one of the fields stood a tree. It was only about 25 or 30 feet tall, but I was nevertheless taken somewhat aback that a tree had somehow managed to grow right in the middle of the field.
When I took a closer look, I saw the secret to the tree’s survival. It had sprouted in the edge of a ditch, out of reach from plows, tractors and other equipment that would have ended it’s life if it was anywhere else.
It reminded me that there are times in life when we have to find a spot away from harmful distractions that keep us from growing and accomplishing our goals. If we’re where we supposed to be, we should develop an attitude of persistence while avoiding the people and things that would hold us back.
While the tree is not very big, I can tell that it has been around for at least 10 years of so. It grew nearly sideways early in it’s life but later headed skyward as it was meant to do.
Sometimes, we have to take a different route than originally planned, but if we keep trying, we’ll find a way to where we need to be. In time, our patience will be rewarded.
I’m not sure what kind of tree it is, but I know that it has made it through thunderstorms, drought and snow showers. It wouldn’t stand out in a forest, but it certainly stands out in the middle of the field.
If we find our mission in life, we’ll have the strength to carry it out. Power comes to those who know where they’re going.
Next time you feel a little pressure, remember that persistence, patience and power can help you grow despite your circumstances.
(NOTE — Jim Rohn, one of the great personal development philosophers of our time and one of my favorite motivational authors, died today. Below is one of his many articles that influenced me. It is reprinted in his honor.)[caption id="attachment_272" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="Jim Rohn (via JimRohn.com)"][/caption]
If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, skills and opportunities you offer as an owner, as a manager, as a parent. I call leadership the great challenge of life.
What’s important in leadership is refining your skills. All great leaders keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here are some specifics:
1) Learn to be strong but not rude. It is an extra step you must take to become a powerful, capable leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake rudeness for strength. It’s not even a good substitute.
2) Learn to be kind but not weak. We must not mistake kindness for weakness. Kindness isn’t weak. Kindness is a certain type of strength. We must be kind enough to tell somebody the truth. We must be kind enough and considerate enough to lay it on the line. We must be kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in delusion.
3) Learn to be bold but not a bully. It takes boldness to win the day. To build your influence, you’ve got to walk in front of your group. You’ve got to be willing to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem, discover the first sign of trouble.
4) You’ve got to learn to be humble, but not timid. You can’t get to the high life by being timid. Some people mistake timidity for humility. Humility is almost a God-like word. A sense of awe. A sense of wonder. An awareness of the human soul and spirit. An understanding that there is something unique about the human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a grasp of the distance between us and the stars, yet having the feeling that we’re part of the stars. So humility is a virtue; but timidity is a disease. Timidity is an affliction. It can be cured, but it is a problem.
5) Be proud but not arrogant. It takes pride to win the day. It takes pride to build your ambition. It takes pride in community. It takes pride in cause, in accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good leader is being proud without being arrogant. In fact I believe the worst kind of arrogance is arrogance from ignorance. It’s when you don’t know that you don’t know. Now that kind of arrogance is intolerable. If someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that. But if someone is ignorant and arrogant, that’s just too much to take.
6) Develop humor without folly. That’s important for a leader. In leadership, we learn that it’s okay to be witty, but not silly. It’s okay to be fun, but not foolish.
Lastly, deal in realities. Deal in truth. Save yourself the agony. Just accept life like it is. Life is unique. Some people call it tragic, but I’d like to think it’s unique. The whole drama of life is unique. It’s fascinating. And I’ve found that the skills that work well for one leader may not work at all for another. But the fundamental skills of leadership can be adapted to work well for just about everyone: at work, in the community and at home.
To Your Success,
(Reproduced with permission from Jim Rohn’s Weekly E-zine. To subscribe, go to www.JimRohn.com All contents Copyright © JimRohn.com except where indicated otherwise. All rights reserved worldwide.)
NOTE — This is the tenth in a series on social network marketing. All the posts in the series can be found here.
At its best, social network marketing leads to the formation of a community. You have to do more than just provide advice on how to get income. Your worth should be measured in friendship not dollars.
The business objective of making money must be put aside so you can focus on bringing together a committed group of prospective buyers or partners.
The good news is that profits take care of themselves as your core group of associates strengthens. As people come together, a community forms.
One of the best ways to build that community is to help those involved to become better at what they do. To become better at what they do, they must first become better at who they are.
To help them accomplish this, a personal development element must be part of your system. In some ways, it will be the most vital component.
Personal development can be blended into your blog or set up separately. Either way it must include at these these elements:
• A set structure. Everyone in the group must be able to understand exactly what they should do to grow.
• A mastermind method. Those in the community must be able to share ideas and what they’re learning.
• A common focus. Everyone should be working together as they each seek to better themselves.
• A way to interact. This might be an Internet forum of some sort but will likely work best if it’s a conference call that allows more personal contact.
Once people start communicating with each other in this way, strong bonds start forming. This makes the difference in being part of just another group and connecting with a life-changing experience.
When people are transformed in such a fashion, they are committed for good.