The best five years? The next five years

BestFiveYears

A few years ago I was talking with someone close to me. He was lamenting the fact that he had spent what he saw as his “best five years” working for a guy who used him up and spit him out.

Without thinking I said, “Those weren’t your best five years. Your best five years are your next five years.” I’ve tried to remember that insightful moment since then.

Way too often we waste time thinking about what might have been. We wish we had done something different. Or we wish someone else had done something different.

The way it is is the way it is. We can’t change what happened or how we got here.

We can change how we approach the current situation, and that would make things better in the future. It will certainly make things better now.

 

What are your intentions?

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The other day I was thinking about a time in my life that wasn’t very pleasant. I went through some struggles and faced a few challenges.
I began to wonder about some of the decisions that I had made back then. I started thinking about whether my life would be better now if I had done some things differently back then.
After a while it occurred to me how useless that kind of thinking is. The brutal truth is that I can’t go back and undo the decisions I made back then. I am where I am and things are like they are.
It reminded me of a classic scene from one of my favorite movies, Apollo 13.

The astronauts are frustrated and disappointed that they aren’t going to get to land on the moon because of mechanical issues. Tom Hanks’ character, James Lovell says to the other two, “Gentlemen, what are your intentions?” He reminds them that they have work to do in order to make it back home.
We all face similar, although much less dramatic, situations in our lives. We can get aggravated about how things are, or we can think about how we can deal with it.
Worrying or complaining about how things might have been better if you’d only done this or done that will not change the ways things are. You can only deal with it now.
Here’s another way to look at it. Think about yourself a year or two years from now. Consider the possibility that you will be looking back at the decisions you make now.
Make choices that will take you to where you want to be in the future. If you continue to do the same things, you will almost certainly get the same results.
Decide now to take action. Do what needs to be done, and you will be pleased with what you accomplished.

Walking with a new perspective

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I recently spent a weekend in North Myrtle Beach with my family. One morning, I went for a walk on the beach with my wife and son. We walked to the Cherry Grove pier.

The walk was pleasant even though it was a cloudy day. We made it to the pier and turned back toward the resort where we were staying.

About halfway back, it occurred to me that the walk going to the pier seemed much shorter than the return trip. It made me realize the importance of perspective.

When we were walking toward the pier, we had a fixed goal in mind. Walking back, our goal was not as visible. Moreover, we realized that we had walked a long way to the pier and now faced a long walk back.

I learned was re-reminded of a couple of good lessons for life and business.

First, always set clear goals. Write them down and celebrate when you reach them.

Second, if you don’t like the way things are looking, it will probably help if you change the way you’re looking at them.

Steve DeVane

A different perspective

There’s an adage that says, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

The other day, I was looking for a notepad on my desk. I needed it to write down some information that I wanted to be sure to remember later.

My desk can get kind of messy. OK, it can get very messy. Stuff was piled all over the place.

I looked and looked. No notebook.

I moved some piles around. Looked under other piles. Nothing.

Finally, I stood up. I quickly spotted the notebook right where I could see it perfectly from a higher vantage point.

On the way home later that day, the odometer on my ever reliable car hit 272, 931 miles. It occurred to me that there is another six-digit number that would logically follow that one.

And no, I’m not thinking of 272,932. But, yes, I know that number would also logically follow 272,931.

I’m thinking of another number. Figured it out yet?

Try this. Remove the comma — 272931. Does that help. No?

All right. Give this a shot. Don’t think of it in thousands. That help? No?

All right. Think of the numbers in groups of two. 27 29 31. Now you know it, right?

The number I’m thinking of is 333,537. After 27 29 31 comes 33 35 37.

When you change the way you look at the number, the number changes.

It’s often that way in life. Often a problem arises. A challenge occurs.

If we groan and fuss and gripe about it. We’re not likely to find a way to solution.

But if we focus on finding a way around, over or through the situation, we’re much more likely to solve it. We might even find a way to turn it into a positive.

There’s a great episode of a show that’s been off the air for a while called, “The West Wing.” In it, the sitting president was running for re-election. The opposing candidate was portraying the president as aloof and out of touch.

Indeed the president was a brilliant man and often came across as condescending to some. His team struggled with a way to deal with it, until finally one of his advisors pointed out that they should use it to their advantage. He said it should be a blessing to have a president with a high IQ.

The president quit worrying about looking too smart. In the next debate, he showed his intellect and made his opponent look stupid. He went on to win re-election.

Next time you’re struggling with an issue, try to look at it from another perspective. See if there’s an upside, a way to use the situation for good.

Even if the thing you’re looking at doesn’t change, you’ll change for the better.

Steve DeVane
This network marketing system helped me change the way I look at business and at life.